…..It’s The Way That You Say It”
(PLUS EXERCISES FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP….further down after photo)
You know, how, in relationships, you can get caught up in who said what and who’s right? Know what I mean? It can drive you mad….you get into a wordy argument and then you spend lots of time after it, trying to remember all the words that were said so you make sure you were right and he (or she) was definitely wrong!
It’s not that the words are not important at all, of course they are and we love words, especially loving ones…….but they can really be destructive, especially if we try to dissect them too much.
YEP…Bob and I have been known to do this too…..but lately, I’m making a conscious effort not to and it’s making a difference.
Very recently, we facilitated our Couples Retreat/Workshop “Learn To Relate More Deeply” within a beautiful setting in Somerset. As we got nearer the event, we decided a big underlying theme would be: “It’s Not What You Say…But The Way That You Say It”.
In other words, let’s focus less on our words, but more on how we are feeling and being to one another. It’s the connection between us, as a couple, that really matters. If one of us is resentful or frustrated, this will show in what we say. So it’s best to get that resentment or frustration cleared up and out of the way first. If, on the other hand, we feel mostly love and admiration for our partner, then we may make the odd mistake with our words, because we’re human, but there’s no need to dwell on that, if the loving connection is in place.
So, here we are, all excited and ready for our couples to arrive
And what a special, heart warming weekend it was….
We created, as always, a mixture of exercises with a tantric flavour and addressing the quality of your loving connection with your partner. One concept we introduced is called
“Our Relational Space”
We all have one, if we are in a relationship. It is the atmosphere of our relationship at any one moment in time and it changes a lot. We are both responsible for it as it belongs to both of us and we need to take care of it as a precious item.
Ideally, it’s rather useful to check in now and again and ask one another “How are you experiencing our relational space now? It may be feeling warm and yummy, or cool and distant, or cosy and safe, or just rather ordinary.
Before you begin each of these two exercises, check out together how your relational space is feeling. And tell one another in a few words. Then, if you remember, do the same after the exercise….it’s likely to be different!
So, if you like the flavour of these exercises, just imagine them in a beautiful setting, being guided through them and many more, all about deepening your loving connection…………..a special, unique opportunity…….
Our Next Couples Retreat ” Learn To Relate More Deeply”
2-4 OCTOBER 2015 in Somerset.
Information and booking for Early Bird Couple Ticket: £490 includes workshop, food and accommodation.